Manypeopleneglectthismostimportantcommunicationskill.
Doyouknowthatwespendanaverageofourwakingdaycommunicating？
Ofthiscommunicationtime，9%isspentwriting，16%reading，30%talkingand45%listening.
Immediatelyafterhearingsomething，mostofuscanrecallonly50%ofwhatwehear.Withintwotoeightweeks，wecanrecallonly25%orlessoftheoriginalmessage.Ourmentalattitudesreduceourabilitytoretainwhatwehear.
Somesuggestionstobeingagoodlistenerarementionedbelow.
Firstofall，stoptalking—youcan?tlistenwhileyouaretalking.
Askquestions—whenyoudon?tunderstand，whenyouneedfurtherclarification，whenyouwantthemtolikeyouandwhenyouwanttoshowthatyouarelistening.
Don?tinterrupt—givethemtimetosaywhattheyhavetosay.
Concentrateonwhattheyaresaying—activelyfocusyourattentionontheirwords，theirideasandtheirfeelingsastheyrelatetothesubject.
Lookattheprospect—bylooking，itgivesthemconfidencethatyouare，infact，listening.Ithelpsyoutoconcentratetoo.
Leaveyouremotionsbehind—trytoforgetyourownworriesandproblems.Leavethemoutsideofthemeetingroom.Theywillpreventyoufromlisteningwell.
Understandthemainpoints—concentrateonthemainideasandnottheillustrativematerial.
Don?targuementally—whenyouaretryingtounderstandotherpeople，itisahandicaptoarguewiththemmentallyastheyarespeaking.Thisonlysetsupabarrierbetweenyourselfandthespeaker.
Usethedifferenceinrate—youcanlistenfasterthanyoucantalk.Sousethisratedifferencetoyouradvantagebystayingontherighttrack，anticipatingwhattheyaregoingtosay，thinkingbackoverwhattheyhavejustsaidandevaluatingthedevelopmentoftheirargument.Youspeakatabout100to150wordsperminute，butyouthinkat250to500.
Learntolistenandyouwillachieveagreatsuccessinyourlife.
宁夏仲莱供稿
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